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Grief, Our Private War

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Recently I had a reading with a beautiful family who had loss someone through a tragic accident. The questions that I am always asked is will the pain stop? How will I ever get over my loss? Grief is such a private war within. I wish I could tell you that it will be better soon.

Unfortunately, it just takes time. Our pain is ours to feel no one person grieves the same. We never stop missing my loved ones, but in time we can speak of them and share memories and stories that make us smile. Our love is forever frozen in time, we will always feel their love just as they will still feel ours.

Processing Pain

This is the hardest thing we will do. Working through our grief is what we have to do to move forward. But you will and can work through it! Trust that your loved one is still with you helping your through your grief. Allow yourself to see the signs they are giving you to let you know they are o.k. and where they need to be. If you don't feel them right away or see the signs you will when you are ready. They are there just in a different way.

How You Can Help yourself

  1. Allow yourself to feel: It's important to acknowledge and allow yourself to experience the full range of emotions that come with grief. Give yourself permission to cry, be angry, or feel sad. Bottling up emotions can prolong the healing process.

  2. Seek support: Reach out to friends, family, or a support group who can offer a listening ear and understanding. Sharing your feelings with others who have experienced similar losses can provide comfort and validation.

  3. Take care of yourself: Grief can be physically and emotionally exhausting, so prioritize self-care. Make sure to get enough rest, eat nourishing meals, engage in gentle exercise, and practice relaxation techniques like deep breathing or meditation.

  4. Express your emotions: Find healthy ways to express your emotions. You might consider writing in a journal, creating art, or participating in activities that help you process your feelings.

  5. Seek professional help if needed: If you find that your grief is overwhelming and affecting your daily life for an extended period, consider reaching out to a mental health professional. They can provide guidance and support tailored to your specific needs.

  6. Establish routines: Creating structure in your daily life can provide a sense of stability during a tumultuous time. Simple routines and activities can help you feel grounded and maintain a sense of normalcy.

  7. Practice patience and self-compassion: Grief is a process that takes time, and everyone heals at their own pace. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself to grieve without judgment. Remember to practice self-compassion as you navigate through this challenging time.

  8. Celebrate the life of your loved one: Find ways to honor and remember your loved one. This could involve creating a memory box, planting a tree, or participating in activities or causes that were important to them.

Remember, grief is a personal journey, and it's okay to have ups and downs along the way. Be kind to yourself as you move through the process, and don't hesitate to seek professional help or support from a friend.

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